Saturday, March 14, 2009

Dating Sucks!

When I met my husband, we had a whirlwind romance. We quickly realized that this was it - this is the person we were meant to be with forever. "How wonderful!" I thought. I have this great guy who loves me. And, almost as important, I never have to date again. Turns out, I was wrong. Not about the love - about the dating.

As a new mommy, with no close mommy friends, you discover that your life will be very closed off if you don't put yourself out there and start making some new friends. Ya, you still have your old friends. But, in my case at least, they don't want hear about Dr. Weissbluth sleep solutions, pumping breast milk or car seat recalls. They want to go to the movies, grab drinks after work, and enjoy a leisurely Sunday Brunch. You need to start dating again - dating other mommies. Even the Boston Globe says so. So, that's just what I have begun to do.

I have a playgroup. That's a start and it's going well. But on Thursday, I got asked out on my very first mommy date. A blind mommy date. A woman from our twins club was interested in the playgroup but couldn't make it. We live in the same town so she said we should meet at Starbucks for coffee the next day. I agree because, let's be honest, I am in no position to be turning down dates.

Thursday becomes Friday and I've got pre-date butterflies! I have by husband entertain the twins and get them dressed for the walk while I put on real clothes. And make-up. Make-up! A little desperate, I know, but I want to make a good impression. With my skinny jeans, Uggs, a pug dog and the twins, I head downtown. We are meeting at the benches in front of Starbucks. I said I would be there a little later than her, because of our different feeding time. I finally arrive and here's what I see:

Ya. That man is not a mother of twins. I was stood up. Boo. A do a loop around but come back to the same thing. Maybe she's just not that into me...


  1. OMG!! Are you sure you were at the right starbucks? Aren't there like, a million of 'em? Perhaps she was at a different one and she thinks she was stood up as well?

    I wouldn't stand you up :) - Without good reason anyway ;)

    Totally hear you about that mommy dating thing though...still struggling with it.

  2. Wow, that sucks. I've always thought meeting mom friends was like dating again too. My oldest is 2 and I just now started hanging out with other mom friends. It took awhile to weed out the cool ones and build up the courage to approach them without coming off as a stalker. Good luck!

  3. Stick to playgroup (no cheating on us)! I think we're already going steady...

  4. carla gutzeit thisseMarch 15, 2009 at 9:58 AM

    That sucks! It's not you, it's her.

  5. I'm going through the same thing! All of my mom friends are too far away to get together me, I won't stand you up :)

  6. Aww, I think it's the same kind of thing with finding other couples to hang out with.

    Sean and I have this issue with finding cool couples to have dinner with or a game night with that we don't leave the night thinking -Wow, they are total freaks. Or, geez, how do they stay together?

    I'm sure the same thing will happen when we start having kids.

  7. OH NO...what a bummer :( I'm sooo sorry you got stood up... Did you hear anything from her today?? (((hugs))))

  8. Okay, I know stuff happens, but that is not cool.


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